From: U.S. News & World Report

When Thankfulness Can Hurt Us

U.S. News & World Report: 

Todd Kashdan, a psychology professor at George Mason University, is one of those guys. The good kind. The type who, when the waiter brings the check, doesn’t miss a beat and offers his credit card before his friends do.

But sometimes, one of Kashdan’s friends takes the gesture as a challenge and insists on paying the bill himself.

That’s where things can go wrong.

Instead of “thank you” and “you’re welcome,” it’s “I got it” and “no, no, no, I got it.” Instead of warmth and appreciation, it’s discomfort and confusion. “It goes from an opportunity for kindness and gratitude to being a bizarre, kind of weird, awkward exchange,” says Kashdan, author of “The Upside of Your Dark Side: Why Being Your Whole Self – Not Just Your ‘Good Self’ – Drives Success and Fulfillment.”

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