PROBLEM: The end of a marriage is a painful experience. Still, why do some divorcees recover easily while others flounder?
METHODOLOGY: The researchers enlisted 105 divorcees who were married for over 13 years for the study. They were asked to think about their former partner for 30 seconds and then to talk for four minutes about their separation. Four trained coders listened to the audio recordings of these sessions and rated the participants’ levels of self-compassion — a combination of kindness toward oneself, recognition of common humanity, and the ability to let painful emotions pass. Other personality traits, such as self-esteem, optimism, and ease with relationships, were assessed as well. Throughout the nine-month trial, the respondents reported on their adjustment to the divorce, including the frequency with which they experienced intrusive thoughts and emotions about the separation and their ex-partner.
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