It’s the second week of February and you unfortunately find yourself in the middle of a heated argument with your significant other. Can you resolve the fight and recover your relationship in time for Valentine’s Day? According to a new study published in Psychological Science, your ability to bounce back from conflict may depend on what you and your partner were like as infants.
The study, part of a two-decade longitudinal study, compared participants’ attachment styles during infancy to their adult conflict recovery styles, emotions, and ratings of relationship satisfaction and stability when they were 20 years old. Researchers found that having a partner who is better at conflict recovery is associated with positive relationship emotions and greater relationship satisfaction. Additionally, secure attachment styles during infancy were found to predict better recovery in adult relationship conflicts. Luckily for those with insecure attachment styles, results also show that the relationships of such people are more stable if their partners are better at recovering from conflict.
Both infancy attachment styles and adult conflict recovery styles play an important role in our mature relationships. This research provides some of the first prospective evidence suggesting that individuals may be able to compensate for the vulnerabilities that their romantic partners carry with them from earlier in their development.