All couples fight, and how you recover from a tiff has a lot to do with the health of your relationship. It also has a lot to do with Mom: those partners who are able to bounce back quickest are likely to have had more secure relationships with their caregivers as infants, according to new research in the journal Psychological Science.
Researchers at the University of Minnesota zeroed in on a group of people they’ve been tracking since before they were born in the mid-1970s. When they were college-age, they and their partners showed up at the lab to participate in a “conflict discussion.” They were instructed to talk about something they didn’t see eye to eye on, then they were to follow that up with a cooler-headed conversation about an issue upon which they agreed.
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