You could always count on Kathy Church. When friends called to vent, she would pick up the phone. When there was a crisis at work, she’d dig in. When family members got together, she’d show up no matter how much she didn’t want to.
Church was always game and always nice. But as she veered into chronic people-pleasing, it ate away at the good will she was trying so hard to cultivate.
Unwilling to say no to any request, Church grew stressed, unable to sleep, and resentful of the people who were taking her time and of herself for letting it be taken. Overworked, she quit her job to start her own company, but even then found herself taking on projects she didn’t want because she was so worried about offending someone or being disliked.
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